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4 tips to help stay positive when going through a divorce

Published: 13th August 2019

4 tips to help stay positive when going through a divorce

Divorce can be one of the most distressing periods in anyone's life and can not only affect you, but also those closest to you.

During this time, emotions are heightened and negative thoughts can cloud your view of the situation, which is why it's important to remain positive throughout the divorce process not only for your own well-being, but also for your children.

With this in mind, the team at K J Smith Solicitors share 4 essential tips to help you stay positive when going through a divorce.

Don't neglect your health

When going through a stressful period in your life, it's easy to neglect your health by making unhealthy choices and turning to things like fast food or alcohol for comfort to get you through a difficult time.

A healthy body helps to maintain a healthy mind so alongside a balanced diet, a regular exercise routine that fits around your current lifestyle can be highly beneficial.

Studies have shown that as little as 30 minutes of exercise three times a week can have a positive effect on mental health and can help to fight depression.

Taking exercise classes at your local gym or leisure centre can also help to get you out and meeting new people, which can help you to make new friends and grow your support network.

Stay in touch with your social circle

Divorce can make people feel lonely as a once happy home becomes fragmented, leaving both parties feeling isolated whilst waiting for the divorce to be finalised.

It's important to retain relationships with your closest friends and family members as their support can help to pick you up when you are feeling down.

Be open and honest about how you are feeling with your closest friends as bottling up your feelings can lead to more negative thoughts further down the line.

If any of your friends have been through a divorce previously, talk to them about their experience and how they came out of it the other side as it can help put your situation into perspective and give you encouragement for a brighter future.

Embrace routine

One of the most common feelings when going through a divorce is the feeling of losing control as your environment starts to change. When your home life is changing around you, embrace the stable parts of your life to help you maintain a feeling of control.

Certain aspects of your life like your job, hobbies/interests and social activities should remain the same so you are not making too many changes all at once.

Don't rush into anything new or make hasty decisions on your career or a new relationship as once the dust settles and you've moved on from the divorce, you are in a much better frame of mind to make better decisions.


Lack of organisation can induce high levels of stress, particularly when going through a divorce. Keeping all your records and documentation in order will certainly help, especially if any documents are required as evidence in your divorce proceedings.

Organising your home and belongings can also give you a project to focus on whilst going through divorce, which can help to keep you positive whilst that aspect of your life remains unclear.

Even simple things like marking all important dates in your calendar will help you know where you stand and will give you the time to prepare for each important milestone in the divorce process.

By organising every aspect of your life, you will have a clear focus on what you want out of life once the divorce is finalised.

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